I'm curious if the stalker is anyone we know. But breaking into someone's house isn't even an imaginary line; it's a very clear one. It's not even up for debate.

And this is no freaking (many really vile expletives deleted) joke, I entirely fail to see the "humor" in it. I had a drunk idiot kid break into my house at 1AM one morning and I could barely sleep for years after. He wasn't even dangerous, but the fact of someone else being in my home while I was sleeping? I wouldn't wish that on anyone.

I wondered exactly the same thing, Anakin. This is not approaching an "imaginary line" - this is a crime and fully crazy behavior. Sick, dangerous, sad. As far as I can tell, this person was not armed but could have been. Keanu is careful to point out that he knows "movie kung fu" - Jesus, i have to stop even thinking about this.

Dude, wouldja please set your alarm???!!!

Sorry to say, but I told you so. I'm so happy he wasn't hurt.

http://www.latimes.com/entertainment/gossip/la-et-mg-keanu-reeves-home-intruder-woman-20140919-story.html

People leave notes for non-celebrities at their houses all the time - heck, my family gets those every now and then under our door, mostly from strangers trying to sell us stuff, sometimes messages from neighbours who came by when we weren't home. People ring the doorbells of strangers all the time, like for instance neighbours they'd like to get to know, or distant relatives they managed to track down, and so on.

But break into someone's house in the middle of the night while they're sleeping, and just sit there? That's illegal, no matter who it is, friend or family or fan or foe. It's not even in the same ballpark. It's not even something whose legality or morality is debatable. The others are inconveniences or annoyances at worst, perhaps rude. But this is criminal.

I think it's also worth noting that the latest intruder is thought to have mental health issues; sane people, obsessive fan or not, generally don't break into houses at 4am in the night and then just sit there doing nothing. So it's not as if this is common human behaviour, and even if there were a strict fandom culture of not doing things like that (and I don't think any fandom has ever remotely condoned breaking and entering), it's highly doubtful that it would stop people like that. Most of them have probably never even been to a fansite - those kinds of obsessions tend to be very private. So I don't think we can just point to those instances and consider them the natural result of any other fan behaviour, because those people are operating independently.

Anakin, you are not selfish - one of the least selfish people I've seen online, in fact - and your note is sweet and not creepy. There is a big screeching line between that and CRIMINAL behavior.

I don't think this kind of lunacy is frequent among fans. I do think it exists. My recollection is that Isis DID post on fan sites, and there are some now (not here) who freak me out. I for one, and I invite others to join me in this, have every intention if I see something online that crosses the line or is getting there fast (clear intention of action that is potentially dangerous) to let someone know about it. If, as Anakin wondered, this crazy person (who does, let's remember, need help) is someone that we know and we could have done something to prevent it? I'm kind of sick if that were true.

Again, there's "unseemly" behavior and there's CRIMINAL behavior. Painting all fans with the crazy brush is not necessary or helpful.

I am seeing more than I'd like of people treating this like a "joke" - would it be a joke if someone were sitting in your home in the middle of the night while you were sleeping? Karma is a bitch.

What is creepy is that there are those who use it to their advantage. In such cases, yes Karma is what MmeRenard said it is and I am referring to the advantage-taking-criminal-lot in the world here. I can't really say how I will react to or if I will be able to forgive and let go of anyone who does that as I haven't experienced it personally but it is extremely disturbing to just hear it.

Having said that, I still do not think the note leaving was in anyway wrong. It was a cute gesture and it wasn't an act of crime. The thoughts I have penned here are of course in line with my beliefs and they might differ from that of others here in some ways and I absolutely respect that.

Sorry, but unless the various sites coordinate their gossip... there's a huge question mark on all this.

"yeah, I can live with that"

Far better than I could deal with thinking it's a joke if it does turn out to be true, which god forbid.